Sunday, January 11, 2009

Ok I'll bite. Which is harder marriage or motherhood?

I find marriage to be harder. Motherhood is a piece of cake for me. But marriage I find a pain in the ass. I blame being raised by a strong single woman. Don't take that as I don't love my husband. I do, mostly. Just kidding. I just find it really easy to say, FINE pack up and take your shit somewhere else. Because if my choice is dealing with your, nasty attitude, condescending mouth, general crap, mental issues, anger management problems, my choice is SEE YA. I CHOOSE for you to be part of my life. I don't NEED you here. There isn't a fundamental part of me that has to have you here. I can change my own oil, fix my own pipes, mend my own fences, fix my own flat. Are those things easier with you here, sure. I'm not dumb. My husband was raised by a mother who 'needs' her husband. She can't do XXX because only he knows how to.
I was raised by a mother how did it all herself because she had to. There was no one to unclog a toilet or fix a broken faucet at our house. I tend to run like that.
My husband has gotten much more used to that. He even now "gets" it. He doesn't always like it, but he's so much better about just getting it.

Besides he can't fix a faucet anyway.

1 comment:

Jen said...

Yes marriage is harder. Kids, up to a certain age (6 months old I think ;) ) will listen and do as their told.

Husbands don't ever listen!